Organizing Romance (Control Freak? Maybe)

So I have this system that I use to name the people who wander into my life (in a romantic fashion).  For instance, I have had a boyfriend, a fling, and a counterpart (There are more, but these are the simpler names to understand).  I have found that many people find this system strange/silly/foreign.  I am going to attempt to explain myself in a practical, well thought out manner.  My verbal explanations never seem to work out.  They usually begin with me tripping over my thoughts as they pile onto each other in a nonsensical heap of reasons and end with the person which I am speaking to looking utterly confused. So here goes my logical (I think) written explanation:

The standard word for a male-type person with whom you have a romantic relationship is boyfriend.  Right? Right.  Okay, so I did that for a while.  I had a boyfriend.  That came and went and when it ended, it just didn’t feel right for me to use that term for anyone else.  I had associated that particular person and the role he played in my life with that word.  I felt that if I used boyfriend for someone else, that it wouldn’t be fair to the person who originally held that title.  I would just be pushing a new person into a spot that someone else used to fill.  I don’t like the idea that every person that I have a relationship is called by the same name.  That person is not replaceable.  I can’t just erase past loves (or “likes”) from my personal history by bringing in someone new.  So I call them different names.  I use a system that makes sense to me and that I feel is fair to everyone who was part of my life.

Did I just make sense?  I hope so.

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